Without the Lord Jesus Christ, there have been many mothers and fathers who have not been able to withstand or cope with the loss of a child, for that same reason many marriages have fallen to pieces in extreme pain, suffering and unimaginable loss! And, unless you have experienced the loss of a child, you cannot understand the emotions these parents feel... for they are indescribable!!
There is no consolation to alleviate the pain except the promise of God's faithfulness to never leave us or forsake us, and the love of our family and friends. Only time thwarts that sharp "knife-like" pain of loss, but there is always that dull aching grasp of the truth on special days like; birthdays, holidays and family gatherings.
If we hold to the promises of God, we know that "You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent. Lord my God, I will praise you forever."
Despite what we might believe God does sympathize with us when our hearts ache and He genuinely empathizes with us in our loss, for He knows that loss personally, as His only son, Jesus died on a cruel cross for our sins. And, He can turn our mourning into dancing and clothe us with joy instead of sorrow and pain.
Our God has a heart that truly grieves with his children who are suffering and carrying a heavy burden from loss. Once again His word brings hope to the heart and soul... for "He redeems your life from the pit, He crowns you with steadfast love an mercy..." Psalm 103:4
Our God sincerely wants to turn our difficult situations around and see us bask in His infinite mercy and love. "I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow." Jeremiah 31:13(b) 31:13
The path that we travel intertwines with sprawling green meadows full of wildflowers, steep climbs over towering and snow-capped mountains, dry restless valleys and small fertile areas surrounded by natural wells springing up cool refreshing waters in the midst of the desert heat. "...and provide for those who grieve in Zion -- to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of His splendor... Isaiah 61:3
This passage of scripture is like a reminder or a love letter to those who are so heavily laden and weighted down with the loss of their precious child. He knows what it is to "walk through the valley of death..." and we never walk this path alone, God is with us... this is a fact and it has nothing to do with what we are feeling! Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Psalm 23:4
We can bank on the facts we "walk through" and in this valley we are assured that "thou (God) is with us!" We can also be confident that we will be comforted by "thy rod" which protects us from the enemy and "thy staff" which God uses to keep us close to Him.
This verse also assures the mom and dad whose child has gone missing... who's teenager has run away... who's child is a drug addict... who's child is an alcoholic. Need I say, we must remember these parents and children in our daily prayers? Be a comfort to a family who is going through any of these losses. A card, a kind word, a hug, a meal... it all matters!!
Finally, our "HOPE" lies in the Word of God, we will experience our ultimate hope and comfort when Jesus returns! At that point... "Our God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. Revelation 21:4
In the midst of our deep sadness and grief... In our struggle to understand the loss of a child... rest on God's promises. Take time to read and meditate on these verses, because you are never alone... God walks right beside you ready and willing to comfort you. His "Word is Powerful" and "His Promises Are True" even in our darkest hours!